JaySoJay is an award-winning poet and best-selling author of the book, The Dangers of Being Gullible, which sold out in 3 days. She has been featured as an actress on HBO’s hit TV show, Insecure with Issa Rae ; has personally been acknowledged for her poetic insights on relationships and black identity by Steve Harvey; has worked with grammy-award winning artist, Kirk Franklin, on his “Love Theory” music video. She has been a presenter for various mental health and women empowerment conferences, including domestic violence prevention, with Halle Berry.
Religio Magazine said, “She’s sweet, but she’s a force to be reckoned with!”
Jay grew up in Los Angeles, where she witnessed mental health disorders, homelessness, and toxic relationships. Using determination and applying what she teaches in her presentations, she was able to earn over $40,000 in grants and scholarships,earned her Masters in Marriage and Family Therapy, became the Director of Health for CAB Magazine, and built Mental Wellness University, a counseling & life coach development training.
As a professional speaker, she has spoken to over 10,000 people. For fun, Jay likes to dance; she was a Spirit Leader for USC and has cheered and performed for Will Ferrell, Snoop Dogg, and over 500,000 sports viewers.
Toxic & Healthy Relationships
Increasing attendance & participation
Decreasing poor behavior
(45- 60 mins)
The Biggest Mistake People Make in Toxic Relationships
This is an extremely powerful presentation that brings high-energy, poetry, humor, neuroscience, and crowd participation , but MOST importantly usable, actionable content that works- guaranteed!
The friendships and relationships we engage in effective our academic performance and development. The trauma from this interactions can leave people withdrawn and absent from class.
This presentations discovers the pain point of toxic relationships, the effect it has on cognitive functioning, and how to choose better partners! Your guests will leave with a knowledge of emotional intelligence to decrease poor behavior.
How to be an effective leader and use your likability factor
Serving as a student leader has unique challenges that can be confusing. Balancing personal and professional relationships are important to maintain longevity.
In this action centered presentation, students will discover the power of using their vulnerability to develop loyalty from your team members, increase participation, and engage in delegation that eliminates weakness.
Your student leaders will take their leadership to the next level and leave with skills, poetry, and real-life results!
Money, Marketing, and Millennial Entrepreneurship: How to Create a Business While in School
All the things you should’ve learned in school about money but you didn’t! Leaving school can be scary and overwhelming hen it comes to income, but it doesn’t have to be!
Entrepreneurship does not have to happen after graduation! It is possible to set up the right idea that serves as an additional stream of income.
Attendees will take their passion and art and learn how to monetize it with business and entertainment strategies, with an action-step business plan and understand the emotional highs and lows of entrepreneurship.
Empowering workshops (1-3 hours)
Secrets of Sexual Assault
Consent and sexual assault are often misunderstood and misrepresented, but they don’t have to be. When students feel disengaged after in school, isolating themselves, and blaming themselves for unwanted behavior, it can create confusion for them and those around them.
This thought-provoking workshop teaches attendees how to identify sexual aggressors, utilize consent, and develop boundaries in order to create more safe places on our campuses and professional settings.
With crowd participation, role plays, and tangible solutions your attendees will have a greater grace for themselves and others when they learn about the impact of sexual assault and how to date in a world that requires consent.
Growing In Power: How Cultural Competence Helps the African American Community
The discreteness and lack of understanding of the African American community can leave members of the community feeling invisible, silenced, and unsafe. From personal bias, to stereotypes, or systemic oppression.
This thought-provoking workshop teaches members in and out of the African American community about the origins and shaping of black america, the issues of pop culture manufacturing the black experience, identity struggle, and the importance of safety and understanding of injustices towards this community.
Great for administrators, schools, colleges that need cultural competency to leave with a deeper sense of understanding how to relate to this culture.
A Better Way to break up & Begin again
Break ups with friendships and relationships can feel like a major loss. People can become withdrawn, angry, unresponsive, and absent from the present world they live in.
Often times, most people do not know how to break up, which results in staying in situations longer than they need to. From using violent language,to manipulative tactics, all of which effect academic performance. The solution is knowing how to choose better partners from the beginning in a healthy way.
With heart wrenching examples, participation and a poetic story line, students will learn how to disengage in unhealthy relationships so they can manage their emotions and focus in school.
Dr. Gazetta Holts-Roberts Ph.D.,Professor of Education at Tennessee State University
"Jay sauntered in the lives of 560 inner city teenagers at Mapplewood High School and single handedly challenged every preconceived notion and thought they had ever entertained about life. Jay’s presentation is intelligent, informative, and provocative. Through her stimulating poetry, always punctuated with words that penetrate deeply into one’s psyche, she challenges unsuspecting youth to remain alert to those who might want to use and abuse them, then discard them like useless Rubbish! Finally, with unparalleled creativity and ingenuity, she inspires them to use their own self expression as a vehicle of soaring above mediocrity and ultimately catapults them into new realms of excellence and personal achievement."
Itzel Martinez, Student, Dare To Be Aware Mental Health Conference
“When I heard Jay’s presentation at the Dare 2 Be Aware Conference, I was astonished with every word she said especially when she spoke about the ways to identify the right people in your life. I as a person have started using that to separate myself from those who are not helpful to me and my life. Her poems were very true and showed me how I am not alone and I shouldn't have to be with someone who doesn’t value me. Jay is an inspiring, astonishing, amazing speaker and someone who is worth my time. Every single word and phrase she said at the conference really showed me that I can deal with hardships in life better, and I am a person who is now changing because of her presentations that I have listened to. I thank you for your time, for speaking about your experience, and for being at this conference for many students to hear what we needed to hear.”
JaRhon HAywood (csula), Teacher, Dorsey High School
“I am an educator at Dorsey High School in Los Angeles, CA and I invited Jay to speak to my students. I had always heard about her work but never saw it for myself. Let me tell you, there are now two days that I look forward to every year; my birthday and witnessing Jay speak to my class! I can’t even begin to say how amazing that day was. Jay was so kind to come and spend the day with us and I honestly cannot thank her enough. She is one of the most selfless people I know. The students were ecstatic to hear her story because so many of them could relate to it, she spoke nothing but the truth. It really moved my heart to see her sharing her passion with us. I would say the most amazing part of the day is when the bell rang for lunch, my students did not move a single muscle because they wanted Jay to continue reciting her poetry. To this day, they still ask about her. She is welcome back to my classroom anytime.’’
Ken Barrios, guest, Growing in power workshop
“I just want to say how incredibly grateful and blessed I was to get the chance to hear Jay speak. I believe God was on my side that day when He told me to wake up and go. I wasn’t suppose to be in her workshop, but I think I was put there for a reason, God placed me in that room for a reason. I am going through a lot right now in life and hearing her speak really had volume. I can’t be more grateful for the opportunity.”
Courtney Young, eDUCATOR, University of California Los Angeles (UCLA)
"Inviting Jay So Jay to speak to students in my speech and debate class was the highlight of our year. She came into the classroom with vivacity and enthusiasm; the students could feel her genuine desire for them to succeed. Not only did she share her personal story with the students, but she used her poetry to connect to them. Most importantly, she explained to my students that they each have a narrative that no one else can write. She encouraged them to use their personal stories in their speeches, and to create poetry that would affect the world because of it's truth. Even months after Jay So Jay left our classroom, students still remembered what she said and how she inspired them. Undoubtedly, JaySoJay touched the lives of my students and encouraged them to find their voice and to use it. "
Star Hernandez, Student, President of the Black Student Assembly, Fremont High School
"I was astonished and completely inspired when I first heard Jay speak. She is so full of energy and wisdom and I could not thank her enough for all that she does with telling her story and speaking her truth. Immediately as she began to speak, it was as though she was uplifting my soul and everything that was originally going on in my life somehow didn't matter anymore."
past partners & Clients
Steve Harvey Mentoring Program
Girls With Gifts
Centennial High School
A Woman For All Seasons Conference
Maplewood High School
Young African American Women’s Conference
Dorsey High School
Dare 2 Be Aware Conference
Artesia High School
The Secret Place
Executive Preparatory Academy of Finance
Venice High School
Mt. Calvary Church
Fremont High School